Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Two Years!

Two years ago today my sons were placed in my arms for the very first time. As is the way with all big things, it is so hard to believe that two years has passed already, and in the same breath, so hard to believe that they haven't been here forever.

Our First Moments, May 23, 2010, Addis Ababa

Last year on our one year anniversary the boys delighted in the telling of their story. They made me tell it over and over again! Then about six months ago one of the boys became very agitated when we discussed anything related to Ethiopia. He said he didn't like to talk about it, and upon further investigation, admitted that the pictures and stories about Ethiopia scared him.

"I don't want to go to Ethiopia! I don't want a new Mommy and Daddy!" he told us adamantly.

Father and Son, May 2012

We told him he was not going back. We tried to explain that our family is permanent. We told him he belongs here, with us, and that he could ask us anything, anytime.

For months following that first conversation he did ask, multiple times a day. Mostly he wanted to hear us reassure him that he was staying here with us. We followed the questions and did our best to reassure him. Even though we have had many age appropriate conversations about birth mother's and adoption, these are hard concepts for a young child to grasp. Often he asks me why I "left" him in Ethiopia, or why I "brought" him there, or how he "got there" and why I "didn't come". Sigh...oh, sweet child...if you only knew how much I wanted to come sooner...how much I wish I could have spared you that pain and every other you will have to face in this life...

Easter, April, 2012
The flood of questioning has lessened to a trickle in recent weeks. One of our anniversary traditions is to look at photos of our first weeks and months together and this morning I worried that it might be upsetting. On the contrary, though, when I asked if they wanted to see the pictures they said yes, and the child who had been expressing his fears declared happily that he is no longer scared when he looks at the pictures. Hallelujah and happy anniversary indeed!

My other son listens quietly to these conversations, taking it all in but letting nothing out. When I ask him if he has any questions he usually does, and those questions are usually about Power Rangers or video games. Our first summer together, this child was the one with all the questions and I am sure the day will come when he has them again.

The growth that has occurred on so many levels over these past two years is mind blowing to me. I'm sure the amount of development at this age is mind blowing to all parents but when you add in language, and all the other things they have learned that they didn't start learning until they were almost three simply because they weren't in this country...well, OK, I'm one of "those" parents! My children are amazing!

They are definitely full fledged American children at this point. Even though they don't watch these shows at home, they love the Transformers and the Power Rangers and have learned all their names and "moves" from the other children at school. The toddlers who hated anything with a creamy texture, especially ice cream, now can't get enough of it.  They love video games, their dogs, and friends at school and on the street. They have grown a whopping eight inches!

Dogs and video games, does it get any better?

Learning to Swim

First Day of T-ball

My smart, beautiful, sweet boys, you have blessed our lives beyond measure! I love you more than I knew a person could love another and being your mother is my favorite thing in the whole wide world. Happy Anniversary!

Mother's Day

Thursday, January 5, 2012

2011 In Review

It's feast or famine on this blog lately! What can I say, work is a little quiet this week and the boys have been sleeping through the night until 7am, leaving me with a little rare and welcome extra gas in my tank!

Ideally I would have written this particular post a week ago but I figure better late than never. I saw something like this on another blog and love the idea. It is so easy to forget how much happens in a year and laying it out like this puts a lot in perspective. 2011 was a big year for us. We celebrated one year together as a family, suffered a serious illness and eventual death in the family, rejoiced in the birth of my niece, witnessed some crazy weather and found a great deal of joy and comfort in each other, family and friends throughout the year. The boys have come so far in the course of 12 months, both physically and emotionally. Almost before our eyes they transformed from squishy babies to little green bean boys - "our haricot verts" as we started calling them in St. Martin!

Here is our 2011 in a nutshell...

January: The boy's first snowstorm, first trip to NH and first stay in a hotel. Our last visit with Gramma before she got sick. Goodbye diapers, hello learning to get dressed.


What a storm to have as your first snow!
The snow was taller than they were but packed enough so they could walk on top.

Happy to see Doc on their first trip to NH

Visiting with Gramma before she got sick

Sleeping like and looking like babies on their first night in a hotel


February: Snow, snow and more snow. I turn 43! How did that happen?

My 43rd
March: Gramma is admitted to the hospital. The boys are evaluated for language development and proclaimed “on target” and "impressive" given how little time they have been in the country. I trip and hit my head on the counter and end up in the ER for stitches!


April: The birth of Colette Marie Provost! The boys’ first Easter, our second trip to NH and Mark and I go on our first “date” since becoming parents. Dash finishes his nine month treatment for exposure to TB - that was a big deal for us.


May: Spring joy! My first mother’s day and we plant a lilac tree in honor of the boys’ birth mother. The boys finish catching up on vaccines for years 0-3, also a big deal for us! Dash eats a wild mushroom in the backyard and spends the night in the ER for observation!


Lilac tree in honor of their birth mother planted on Birth Mother's Day
(the day before Mother's Day)


June: The boys’ start summer school two mornings a week, our beach club opens, another trip to NH for beautiful Colette's Baptism and we celebrate our first “Family Day” in honor of completing one year together.

First day at beach club
Playing ball in NH with Uncle DAP

First day of school and first day away from Mommy and Daddy since joining the family

Devouring Ethiopian food on Family Day 2011

July: Sunshine and day dream...a lovely and uneventful month. The boys start sleeping through the night on their own and start growing up more than out.

Our garden after many hours removing the weeds that had taken over the year before when the boys first arrived home
The boys learn to swim under water

The emergence of the hericot verts

August: The boys turn four! Mark turns 43! First trip to the American History Museum. We realize that we are no longer worrying about indiscriminate affection toward strangers. We leave the boys with a babysitter other than family for the first time and go on our second "date". The boys promptly stop sleeping through the night on their own...

Family
Mark's 43rd and our second "date" since becoming parents
September: The boys’ start preschool three mornings a week. Taye develops Bell’s Palsy but recovers quickly after giving Mom and Dad a good scare. We lose my mother-in-law to cancer. Hurricane Irene devistates the tri-state area. What a month...

Hurricane Irene damage looking out our front door.

Taye with Bell's Palsy (facial paralysis on one side of his face).
At first we thought he was just making a pirate face!

Cousins in their grandmother's chair after the funeral

October: Our fourth trip to visit family in NH, this time for apple picking at our favorite orchard. The boys’ second Halloween in spite of Halloween being postponed in CT due to a big snow storm. This year there was lots of fun and little fear. Taye runs into a picnic table at school and gets his first (and hopefully last) stitches. The boys and Mark catch multiple colds, which everyone said would happen once they started preschool but we didn't want to believe it...

Applecrest 2011


Brave boy after getting stitches

I flex my artistic muscle on Halloween
Halloween snow
Kids in the hood

November: School Thanksgiving play, Thanksgiving with my Dad, Taye writes his name for the first time, the boys discovery video games on the Wii...


Watching the Macy's Day Parade in honor of their Auntie MP
Cutest pilgrams ever!

December: First family vacation in St. Martin, amazing Christmas, Dash writes his name for the first time, the boys and I catch the flu and colds but manage to be healthy for vacation and Christmas!

Dash writes his name for the first time, albiet upside down. I am overwhelmingly proud, amazed at the perfect upside down writing (if you flip the page over the letters spell DASH as you would expect) and at first was worried about what it might mean. I think this is called mirror writing, which is interesting because the boys are called mirror twins since Taye is a lefty and Dash is a righty. I am grateful for friends who work in early childhood education who tell me at this age this is no cause for alarm. If anyone knows anything about this I'd love to hear your thoughts.

My life's greatest gifts...


Whew, what a year! 2011 certainly had its ups and downs and we're ready for a new year, which we hope will be a little quieter but no less full of love and amazement. Praying for much health, love and happiness in 2012 for us and for all of you!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Referralversary

It's hard to believe that two years ago today we got the call of a lifetime. The two years since knowing their faces have flown by in comparison to the years we waited and I can honestly say that they have been the best two years of my life.

Last year on this day I pulled out the photo albums and spent some time telling the boys about this day and about their story. Frankly, they seemed to care less last year. This year their faces lit up when I told them how I felt that day, and they loved looking at the pictures. Here are some of the first pictures we ever saw of our beautiful boys.

December 2009

We couldn't believe how healthy and handsome they looked. Two years later I think that even more when I look into their shining faces.

December 2011
They have the hearts, brains and personalities to match those good looks and I am so lucky to be their Momma. 

Happy Referral Day, Boys! You have blessed our lives beyond measure!